To anyone who’s experienced a failed transfer—whether it’s your first or your fifth—you are not alone. Give yourself grace, time, and space. Your feelings matter. Your journey matters. And this is just one part of it.

Even as a Surrogate, remember: this is still your birth experience. Even if it wasn’t what you planned, it’s still yours.

Giving up a baby....At the end of the day, your mindset is what plays a big role, going into it knowing that that baby is not yours to keep.